Tuesday, October 18, 2005

Guys 101

I was on my way home last weekend for the fiesta when I suddenly went reminiscing my past lovelife..thinking what I had learned from the past failure relationships I had. Oh well.. Let's make a run down..

CJ - he is my "puppy love". I was only 11 years old when I met the boy. I don't even know his full name or how much older he is to me. All I know is that sweet smile he always wore everytime he saw me. I met him through my brother at the 5th floor of "Princess of the Orient". It was a ship going to Cebu, April 1994. My brother and I were playing video games and then he was there looking on how we play Street Fighter with my brother bragging, "Wala ka, Ate, matatalo ka lang sa 'kin". I noticed him smiling as me and my brother challenged each other. After that, I don't know how it happened (thankfully, it actually did), we were together playing and running around the 5th floor. The stars were on my side (call it faith or destiny or just plain coincidence), their room was just right next to ours! (Talaga nga naman, iba na ang sinuswerte). We spent more time together, playing "Pusoy dos" and singing with his brother strumming the guitar strings, "fixing a broken heart" was one of the famous songs at that time. Every time spent with him was heaven, we even went to the ship deck viewing the deep blue sea right in front of us, pointing small islands with birds flying over the sky and fishes swimming in the water. I would never forget the time when my younger sister, Aiza, was lost and he was with me searching in the whole ship until we found her at the reception in the fourth floor. Sobrang supportive, kakakilig.. That night, we were walking back to the room and asked me what am I going to do in Cebu daw. I told him that we were in a vacation and the last thing I remember was him saying the sweetest goodnight I ever had in my whole life. I knew he came with her older brother and sister to a disco bar just right beside the arcade. The next morning, I woke up with excitement of meeting him again but it was too late, nasa Pier na kami ng Cebu. Everyone was preparing their things to leave and I saw him in the deck looking over the island, with a fisherman's cap. I can't forget his smile when he saw me and yet, I did not even bother to say goodbye, asked if we can still communicate or tried to at least talk to him for the last time. Kahit nung highschool ako, I was hoping that I'm gonna meet the guy someday. I even asked my mom to get the same trip back to Manila with that ship, hoping that I was going to see him there. And it did not happen..(sobrang faith na talaga yun). Just like the ship Titanic, that was buried in the deepest level of the Atlantic ocean, my love for him was buried in the depth of my heart.

Glenn - a highschool classmate. Glenn was the first guy I fall in love with. He was a highschool classmate, laging nang-aasar. Lagi kaming nag-aaway especially when we were in first year highscool. Alaska was his team, mine was Ginebra and super idol nya yung pinaka-hate kong Alaska player, Johnny Abbarientos. Para kaming aso't pusa, fighting over silly things and the worst thing is, walang nagpapatalo sa aming dalawa. Ironically, we were always partners in dances and plays because we were both short(pero matangkad na sya ngayon, also one of the kindest guy I ever met). And sobrang bad trip kasi parehong kaliwa yung paa nya (kapag minamalas ka nga naman) kaya away lang kami ng away. I never thought I was falling for the guy when we were in last year na. Nag-umpisa kasi yun nung COCC days. We were both applying for officers. And yung mga magaling kong officer, lagi kaming tinutukso (everyone in our class did). Nung officer na kami nung 4th year, we became close. We were in one team only and suddenly, di na sya masyadong nakakaasar. Kahit mapagalitan pa sya ng mga teachers namin because of improper seat, tumatabi pa rin sya sa 'kin. I heard my barkada teasing him, "Si Niña liligawan mo? Ok ka lang pare eh mas lalaki pa sa yo yun." and he will just make this cute grin in his face. I satrted falling for the guy I never wanted to see during the first two years of highschool days(ironic, di ba?!). He was my prom date, and when I got sick during an activity we were assisting, super alaga sya sa akin. We were reviewing together, doing things together, going home together, eating together with my barkada.. But we never had any relationship more than friendship. I was scared at that time. He even knew about CJ, told me to forget the guy because its useless. I was scared because we were graduating at that time. I passed in UP Clark and he did in UP Los Baños. My sole reason was, I cannot stand long distance relationship, with him in Laguna and with me in Pampanga. I thought that I would never let him be commited to me because I want him to take his chance, with other girls that he was going to meet. We stayed as friends and Glenn taught me a lot of things. He taught me to become stronger, to smile even though my world is breaking right in front of me. Im proud of him because up to now, we still managed to become friends despite of the things that had happened between us. I just don't know if he knew that I loved him. Too late for that..

Paul - my first boyfriend. After Glenn, I fell in love with a neighbor, met him through my barkada. I wasn't interested in him at first, I was too engrossed with Glenn, my thoughts on the latter hoping that we may still be together. But Paul proved his worth, he broke the distance. He was studying in Manila and still managed to be with me most of the time. The courtship lasted for 3 months and then we were officially a couple. We had shared a lot of things together, he was my fisrt kiss, first guy to hold my hand and first man who made the deepest cut in my heart. We were very happy, sabi nga ng mga pinsan ko, addict kami sa isa't-isa. Grabe din kami mag-away nito, super walk-out. Sa dami nang pinagsamahan namin, baka kulang pa isang araw para ikuwento ko lahat. "Sweet" pa ang tawagan namin, he sings very well, not bad with dancing. He is the typical guy a girl will be attracted to, he looks like Piolo Pascual kasi, tall dark and handsome. He also taught me how to drive and the reason why I know Manila by heart, its because of him because we used to have our dates there(hehe, used to cutting classes. Oo, ginawa ko rin nung college yun). I learned how to be patient, waiting his class to be over and seating-in as well. I was spoiled also, used to getting what I want (minsan inaway ko pa sya just to get me dinuguan). But the relationship finally ended after 2 years because of a third party. Kanino? (saka ko nalang ikukuwento). I was doomed to hell after the relationship, told myself I would never ever fall in love again not because I hate guys but because I thought I would never ever forget the guy. Update: he's married na..

A lot of flings.. I never entered any relationship or committed myself in that matter. I used to date a lot of guys, former friends, friends of my friends and cousins. But I was too numb to feel something, locked myself away from the feelings.

Bojo - the smartest guy I ever met and the most interesting one. He's from Bacolod, a 27 year old guy who is franchiser of Royal Carribean. He graduated from La Salle, he's not cute but he's not ugly din naman. I enjoyed every conversation we had, can stay over the phone for more than 7 hours straight (walang babaan, hold lang kapag kain or punta ng restroom, ganun kami ka-addict). Keeps on missing him once in a while. He is the reason why I got totally over with Paul. He taught me to trust again and I learned that I can still fall in love with another man (aside form Paul, because at first, I thought that was far from possible). But he left for States last June, and the pain is still fresh, don't wanna elaborate yet.

Because of them, I learned how to be in love, how to cry my heart out, how to be happy, how to be sad, how to share, how to trust, how to be crazy... When I go back to those memories, I just smiled. The feeling is not there anymore, I somehow cope up with letting go..with being tough, with being a hard core..

Right now, I have someone very special, don't know yet if we're meant for each other.. Bahala na si Batman!

I came up with a list of things Im looking for my future boyfriend/husband to be.. Those who were in color blue is non-negotiable; others, pwede.. hehe

1.) believes in God
2.) kind and generous
3.) have a great deal of respect for me and for people too
4.) able to get along with my friends and loves my family
5.) supportive and encourages me to pursue my dreams
6.) faithful
7.) loves to travel, nature lover and knows how to appreciate beauty, adventurous

8.) responsible enough, stable (plus points)
9.) smart-ass, able to make things have sense even if they don't to others
10.) tall and have beautiful and expressive eyes, with pointed nose like Piolo Pascual/Ashton Kutcher
11.) someone i can share my deepest feelings, happy moments, troubles..someone i can open up with and share his' as well (for better or for worse)
12.) sweet and thoughtful
13.) someone who looks after my welfare, able to take care of me
(backrubs is really an add-on)
14.) malambing - loves to hold me and touch me
15.) open-minded
16.) witty - great sense of humor
17.) hopeless romantic
18.) someone who can carry himself well - be it at how he dress, eat and talk
19.) who considers me as his female counterpart - best buddy
20.) loves to watch movies and loves music a lot
21.) can sing and dance (even not so good at it)
22.) who always smile and makes people around him comfy

23.) good conversationalist
24.) not braggy and conceited
25.) courageously pursues his dreams

26.) a passionate lover, good kisser
27.) not a gambler, a drunkard..or some sort of an addict
28.) not a psycho
(of course)
29.) accepts the fact that he loves me - who doesn't deny his feelings for me
30.) not a spoiled brat - loves his mother and sister
31.) someone who believes in marriage

32.) knows how to play guitar
33.) more dominant than I am (Im so stubborn but I dont need a tyrant or a dictator)
34.) simply accepts me for what I am and encourages me to become a better person
35.) thinks me the smartest, funniest, most gorgeous woman he ever met (hahaha)

Non-existent yata ang lalaking ito..
Pero kung ganito ka-cute...Im gonna think twice...

2 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

hmmn...medyo imposible yatang may guy na in possession of most, if not all, of these qualities. hahaha. siguro, sa make-believe world lang siya existent.

7:28 PM  
Blogger Wanderer said...

i think so...but that is just my ideal list. in love, we cannot really tell.thanks for dropping by girl

7:40 PM  

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